Here is the secret: Remember that you are affirming all the time. Your life is a direct result of your continual affirmations. Check out what you are constantly saying to yourself. As you begin to listen to that conversation more attentively, you will notice patterns. Those patterns, repeated over and over in word and practice, produce your life experiences. They are your beliefs. You respond to your surroundings and incoming data according to your beliefs. And I am not necessarily talking religous beliefs, although they certainly play a major role. I am also talking about what you believe about the world around you, the people in it, and most of all, about your own ability to cope with what you think you see, Years of feeling like the victim make everything appear the victimizer. Believing you're not smart keeps you from being smarter. Unloveable mindsets produced unloveable actions.
Change your thinking, change your life. Begin by commiting to the practice of watching what you tell yourself over and over again.
You have talked yourself into the world in which you currently reside. You can talk yourself out of it, if you are not happy with it. But chances are, it's comfortable, habitual, and easy, even if it hurts. Even what you've just read will probably go onto the trash heap.
Your work is cut out for you.