There is one simple habit that will assure your misery. It keeps you from experiencing the best in life. It impedes your success, it swallows your joy. You cannot have the best life while this habit remains dominant. What is it?
Self-pity.
It stands between you and Spirit in a way that nothing else does or even can. It is the block you have erected to keep the rest of the world out, to maintain a radical distance that you think is safe. At the same time, it's your loudest cry for attention. Paradoxical, eh?
The way out? Choice. Decision. New practice. You can try to think your way out of self-pity but that rarely works. It takes action. Here are three simple ones that can set you on the path to self-acceptance and a much better likelihood of a satisfied life:
- Practice laughter, even if at first it feels strained. According to research, laughter can lengthen your life, and add life to your days. It uplifts you, helps you to grow on every level, and can help you to relax and rejuvenate.
- Stop nursing your own suffering. Lady Holland said, "Troubles, like babies, grow larger by nursing."
- Quit verbalizing your pain. The more you talk about it, out loud and to yourself, the more it will be energized. Change your language. What you say really does change your body and, ultimately, your mind.
Earl Nightingale once said, "Self-pity is an acid which eats holes in happiness." He's right. And you can choose to practice a different way of living by practicing laughter, deciding to stop giving in to the pity voices in your head, and to begin talking to yourself in a more supportive way.
You have the power.
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