The 'Truth' About the Law of Attraction - Pt III (Guest Article) - M. D. Berry

EXPECTATIONS

On a material level, we seem to have some strong concepts/constructs surrounding how limited the universe is and as a result, how limited its provision for our needs. We believe this is a realistic depiction based on an allegorical mirrored reflection of ourselves. We look at the terrible need of the homeless, the poor, Third World countries, abused children and spouses, and so on, and what we think we see is the limited capacity of the universe to provide for human needs. What we are in fact seeing is the limited capacity for giving between one human being to another, and the incapacity to expect more from life.

The consciousness that pervades this universe has no such limitation: If it can fulfill all that expectation of negativity, it can equally fulfill all the positivity we can or could ever dream up. And the more we dream up that’s positive, the more there is to go around. It’s exactly like love: the more you give, the more there is. There is no limitation beyond the ones we construct. 

In this respect, all the literature you find on this subject is quite correct. But we need to understand something about this consciousness: It has a personality (or it wouldn’t be a consciousness, just as you wouldn’t be), and it responds much as a parent might. You expect the worst, so you behave accordingly (not your best, in other words). Then the parent responds appropriately to that behavior. When we try better behavior and set ourselves higher expectations, things begin to change.


EMOTIONS

Without emotions there is no need. With no need, there’s nothing to fulfill. Without clarity of intent (concentration and visualization), the need becomes muddled and diffused, and is again unfulfilled.

In The Secret (Rhonda Byrne 2006) we are told that powerful negative experience doesn’t matter. If what is meant is that it doesn’t affect one’s ability to manifest, then they’re quite right. If, however, the experts are referring to manifesting what is really wanted, then they’re quite wrong: It does matter.

[It's also stated] in The Secret that anything negative that’s happened in your life, you manifested.

Picture this: A child who is abused for many years (extending into adulthood) by both parents, is isolated (as most abuse victims are), and then is told by society that it’s wrong to feel the way they do about the people who did this to them (“you should forgive them”), how confused are they going to be about what they want? What will their expectations be? Where does a positive reference come from? Also, how do you think they feel when they’re told they manifested a life of pain from childhood as The Secret tries to state? This was the experience of my life, and they were saying it didn’t matter and I created it!

This is of course, patently ridiculous. No child “manifests” that kind of negativity for itself. For one, they are way too self-centered to do that: The whole universe rotates around them, just watch a two or three year old. They expect to be loved and treated like royalty and the first thing they need to be taught is about the needs of others as well their own – which they know well.

So what to do if this is you, as it was me?

The following are suggestions that are generalizations that most can apply to their lives. I have applied each of these to my own.

Recognize that what happened to you is valid: Unpleasant, painful, difficult, but valid. If you can’t do that for yourself, I do it now: YOUR LIFE, AS IT HAS BEEN EXPERIENCED, IS VALID. The value of that experience is up to you: You mold the meaning.

Recognize the value of the lessons learned and the skills you developed. For instance, you might be able to “read” people or situations very well. You know how not to treat others.
Decide who you are going to be. DO NOT leave this to others and if someone is or has told you how “bad” or “awful” you are as a person, know it is a lie.

Own what belongs to you – discard the rest. If you spill something and get beaten for it, that DOES NOT belong to you. If you listen to all the negativity directed at you when you are old enough to choose otherwise, that DOES belong to you.

Learn to find what you can to be grateful for, no matter how small. The Secret really was right about this one. This teaches you to see more of what you want and less of what you don’t. It WILL eventually become more and more of what you want.

Have patience and compassion with yourself and those around you because the expectations you’ve been taught are difficult and take time to overcome.

Set yourself goals that you can achieve apart from any toxicity. Write, learn to play an instrument (cheap or otherwise depending on your circumstances), run, anything that you can learn to be good at away from any negativity. If a big goal is too much to believe you can do, pick a small one. This will give you positive feedback about yourself.

Goals are sometimes difficult for those of us with this kind of past / life. So, with goals, clearly define in your heart what is you’re trying to be achieve. Then take note of the emotional weight of what is trying to be achieved against why you are trying to achieve it. The one with the greater weight will win. If they are of nearly equal “weight”, the universe will try to fulfill both, even if they conflict.

Trust me when I tell you that the consciousness that runs through our universe is benevolent. Not neutral. Benevolent. The universe is a good place to be. It wants the best for you, and for you to be your best.

CONCLUSION

It doesn’t matter what kind of life you end up living in the sense that you are an unlimited conscious being living in an unlimited conscious universe. This gives you the power to create anything you want.

We are each uniquely valuable and have something to give: It may be material, emotional, or spiritual and each of them is equally valid and important. We are also unique in our specific needs and abilities. Another’s need can be the fulfillment of our abilities. And of course, the reverse is also true. We need each other for the uniqueness we each bring to the table of life. This is the generosity spoken of in the great teachings found around the world.

Only we (with the enormous help the universe provides) can make the world into the better place we all say we want. I believe it provides all the materials we will ever need, but it is up to us how we will use those supplies. We can shape all kinds of realities out of them, including a world where kindness, happiness, and fulfillment prevail. 

Don’t you think that’s just what the universe might be trying to show us?